The shortage of possession over the property, coping with a cramped residing house, and witnessing my mother-in-law’s affection being virtually solely directed in the direction of her daughter all contribute to my feeling of suffocation.
At 40, being married, I’ve resided in my partner’s dwelling since 2012. My parental house is located 30 kilometers away. Though my dad and mom reside independently, their dwelling is sort of compact, inadequate to accommodate each my partner and me.
My spouse operates a home-based enterprise, producing roughly VND15 million (US$605) month-to-month, whereas my earnings are about VND30 million. My expenditures, together with meals and commuting prices, whole round VND7 million. Consequently, I allocate VND20 million to my spouse month-to-month and retain the rest for my private affairs.
The environment at my spouse’s place progressively turns into extra constricting, as my mother-in-law persistently exhibits a choice for her daughter. As well as, I lack a sense of possession over the house, and the house is extraordinarily restricted.
Located on a principal avenue, the property’s possession has been transferred solely to my spouse by my in-laws. I proposed that my in-laws contemplate promoting the property to buy a bigger one, nonetheless below my spouse’s identify, which might probably go away us with VND5 billion in surplus, or to lease it out so my spouse might generate a gentle earnings with out the strenuous effort her enterprise calls for. Sadly, my options had been met with no settlement.
One other downside is that my in-laws, who obtain a month-to-month pension of roughly VND14 million, select to allocate a portion of it to my brother-in-law’s household reasonably than contribute in the direction of the residing bills shared with my spouse and me. This usually results in my spouse voicing considerations in regards to the insufficiency of funds for our expenditures, including to the psychological burden I’ve been bearing.
Confronted with these circumstances, I’m at a crossroads about what steps to take subsequent. Are you able to give me some recommendation?