We’re each 35 years outdated and oldsters to 2 youngsters
On the onset of our marriage, I used to be employed within the laptop restore business, incomes a month-to-month revenue of VND5 million (US$203). I ventured into opening my very own enterprise 4 years in the past, a journey fraught with challenges however supported steadfastly by my spouse.
Since establishing my store, I’ve contributed VND3-5 million month-to-month to our household’s bills, with the steadiness being directed to my financial savings. Our family expenditures vary between VND12-15 million a month, managed totally by my spouse.
My spouse, an accountant, earns over VND20 million month-to-month. She diligently balances her skilled tasks with family chores, guaranteeing our youngsters are well-cared for and our dwelling stays orderly and welcoming. Regardless of her busy schedule, she finds time to cook dinner each day, keep our social ties, and wakes up early to perform these duties.
In distinction, my contributions have been restricted to my work, neglecting family chores and the care of our youngsters. Acknowledging my shortcomings, I notice my lack of involvement and appreciation for my spouse. I’ve by no means as soon as bought her a present and even remembered her birthday. When my spouse purchases presents for my mom on particular events, I reciprocate by shopping for presents for my mom as nicely, but I neglect to do the identical for my spouse.
Moreover, I fail to supply take care of my spouse when she is unwell, and I’ve been oblivious to her makes an attempt at communication. I even have strictly divided our funds, even to the extent of requesting reimbursement for shared bills similar to our youngsters’s requirements from her.
Following my spouse’s request for a divorce, I’ve tried to interact extra with our youngsters, although they present a transparent choice for his or her mom as a consequence of my earlier lack of involvement. This realization has left me in anguish, searching for methods to restore our relationship, but going through silence from my spouse. I’m at a loss on the best way to proceed.
What ought to I do now?