Having been collectively for seven years earlier than marriage, we now personal a house and a automobile, take pleasure in secure careers, and are mother and father to 2 fantastic kids.
As a college lecturer with a facet hustle, my month-to-month earnings are VND40 million (US$1,620), often extra. I completely entrust these earnings to my spouse for administration, as I dislike and am not accustomed to dealing with cash.
I neither smoke nor drink, nor do I socialize over drinks with buddies. Thus, I’m accountable for taking our kids to high school within the morning and choosing them up after work, along with contributing to family duties.
Over our seven-year marriage, I’ve accompanied my spouse and children to go to my in-laws for the Tet Lunar New Yr 5 instances, a rarity amongst males. We additionally go to her mother and father twice a month. Ceaselessly, I purchase beneficiant presents for them, starting from an air conditioner and a washer to a therapeutic massage chair. My in-laws have a excessive regard for me.
However, my spouse at all times insists on having issues her means, all the way down to the particular vegatables and fruits we buy, resulting in reprimands for any deviation. This has led me to a degree the place I hesitate to make selections at dwelling, even needing her approval for fundamental procuring.
Of late, my spouse’s work has left her ceaselessly irritable. Our first baby’s battle at school has change into a degree of rivalry, for which she holds me accountable.
Observing my spouse’s stress and our kids’s dietary challenges, I purchased a gradual juicer to arrange nutritious drinks for them. That night, my spouse condemned my determination, linking it to our baby’s educational points and unauthorized procuring, deeming it unacceptable.
This made me really feel demeaned, prompting me to claim the necessity for her respect, solely to be met with additional reproach.
I now discover all the things overwhelmingly exhausting, feeling at a loss on how you can proceed with my spouse and wishing for a respite. But, my love for my kids prevails.
What ought to I do?