Having been collectively for seven years earlier than marriage, we now personal a house and a car, take pleasure in secure careers, and are dad and mom to 2 fantastic youngsters.
As a college lecturer with a aspect hustle, my month-to-month earnings are VND40 million (US$1,620), sometimes extra. I solely entrust these earnings to my spouse for administration, as I dislike and am not accustomed to dealing with cash.
I neither smoke nor drink, nor do I socialize over drinks with pals. Thus, I’m chargeable for taking our kids to high school within the morning and choosing them up after work, along with contributing to family duties.
Over our seven-year marriage, I’ve accompanied my spouse and children to go to my in-laws for the Tet Lunar New 12 months 5 occasions, a rarity amongst males. We additionally go to her dad and mom twice a month. Steadily, I purchase beneficiant items for them, starting from an air conditioner and a washer to a therapeutic massage chair. My in-laws have a excessive regard for me.
However, my spouse at all times insists on having issues her means, all the way down to the particular vegatables and fruits we buy, resulting in reprimands for any deviation. This has led me to some extent the place I hesitate to make selections at dwelling, even needing her approval for fundamental procuring.
Of late, my spouse’s work has left her steadily irritable. Our first little one’s wrestle at school has develop into some extent of competition, for which she holds me accountable.
Observing my spouse’s stress and our kids’s dietary challenges, I purchased a sluggish juicer to arrange nutritious drinks for them. That night, my spouse condemned my choice, linking it to our little one’s tutorial points and unauthorized procuring, deeming it unacceptable.
This made me really feel demeaned, prompting me to say the necessity for her respect, solely to be met with additional reproach.
I now discover all the pieces overwhelmingly exhausting, feeling at a loss on learn how to proceed with my spouse and wishing for a respite. But, my love for my youngsters prevails.
What ought to I do?