As I write this, I really feel exhausted and anxious about our household’s future. I worry I received’t have the energy to proceed bearing the load amid rising financial and work challenges, rising bills for the children, and the rising lease in Ho Chi Minh Metropolis.
I’m 35, my spouse is 32, and now we have five- and two-year-old youngsters. My month-to-month wage is VND26 million (US$1,064), however it comes with strain. Our family bills embody VND5 million, VND4 million for our five-year-old son’s kindergarten, diapers, and meals for the household.
Nevertheless, my spouse manages our funds poorly, typically spending carelessly. She doesn’t recognize my arduous work and lives with a day-to-day mindset, which places all of the strain on me. Although I don’t blame her for staying at residence to look after our younger baby, I’m upset that she doesn’t share the burden.
Each morning, I’ve instantaneous noodles or leftover rice for breakfast earlier than dropping off our eldest in school and going to work. In the meantime, my spouse and the youngest sleep till 9 a.m., then they exit for breakfast at a café, the place my spouse additionally enjoys a cup of espresso. I’ve instructed she may lower your expenses by getting ready breakfast at residence, however she ignores me.
She additionally carelessly leaves the air con, fan, and TV on all day, resulting in electrical payments over VND1 million some months. In her free time, my spouse is at all times on her cellphone and prefers to make use of diapers for the youngsters all day as a substitute of potty coaching them. Our five-year-old nonetheless wears diapers to mattress. I’ve instructed she discover one thing to do in her free time to earn cash, however she ignores that too.
I’ve additionally instructed purchasing on the wholesale market to economize because it’s shut by and gives meals that’s less expensive, however she prefers the grocery store the place issues are bought for increased costs, and at all times buys issues that we by no means use.
Given my spouse’s spending habits, my month-to-month wage fails to cowl our household’s bills, forcing me to generally borrow cash from family and friends.
I’ve advised my spouse that after the Tet Lunar New Yr vacation, she ought to begin working or we must always cut up the family bills, fearing what we’d do if I lose my job or get my wage decreased, however I actually don’t understand how issues will prove. There are a lot of individuals on this planet who solely need to get pleasure from life on the expense of others like my spouse.
I’m exhausted by this life, and ideas of divorce steadily cross my thoughts. What steps ought to I take now?