My sister-in-law, who’s of the identical age as me, married my husband’s older brother 5 months previous to our personal wedding ceremony. Each our households reside removed from dwelling and sometimes return to our in-laws’ hometown.
She and my brother-in-law have a son who’s three years previous, whereas my husband and I are mother and father to a one-year-old daughter. Our interactions had been as soon as full of satisfying conversations. Over time, nonetheless, I started to note my sister-in-law’s tendency to boast, which I discover discomforting.
Her conversations steadily focus on her son, as she narrates varied anecdotes and lavishes reward upon him. She has a behavior of interrupting me whereas I converse of my very own baby, to focus on her son’s achievements and draw comparisons between the 2.
As an example, she boasts that her son started to roll over at three months, managed to crawl by six months, and was strolling by 9 months. But, within the presence of our mother-in-law, her story adjustments, claiming he rolled over at 4 months, crawled at 9 months, and walked at a 12 months previous. The latter account, validated by my mother-in-law’s frequent interactions with my nephew, is correct.
Throughout one in every of our conversations, my mother-in-law talked about that my nephew was nonetheless breastfeeding at 20 months. Contrarily, my sister-in-law claimed the next week that he had been weaned off for a number of months.
She as soon as alarmed me by stating her son had a excessive fever of 40-41 levels Celsius one afternoon; nonetheless, upon my go to that night, he appeared completely wholesome, engaged in consuming and taking part in. But, just a few days later, she knowledgeable our mother-in-law that her son had been unwell for 3 weeks earlier than making a restoration.
Additionally, she steadily attracts comparisons between her son and my daughter in an try to show her son’s superiority.
Whereas my household has not but acquired a automotive or home, my husband has opted for a rented self-driving automotive for our comfort since my being pregnant, facilitating our visits to his hometown. My sister-in-law typically requests rides, citing her baby as justification, which ends up in further hours of journey for us resulting from her residence being in a unique path.
These points, albeit minor, have been dismissed by my husband upon dialogue. But, I stay uneasy.
Ought to I overlook these considerations as nicely and endeavor to boost my rapport along with her?